Monica Choudhary

An educator, a dancer and a sports women responsible for herself and those under her care traditions and cultures are her strength

How to keep children busy (learning ) during Quarantine? Here is the way

All schools close, parents are suddenly faced with the challenge of keeping their children occupied at home.
Most of the children are either busy with mobiles, TV, Fighting, video games(all unwanted Activities)

In the evening, the lockdown was announced, due to concerns about the spread of the novel coronavirus,  schools, offices, factories, etc would be closed for 21 days starting from midnight of….  students are now on a surprise -long break, and they’ll be spending every day of it cooped up at home with their parents.

Moms, dads, and kids all over the country have suddenly found themselves in a cozy and chaotic new situation. As me and my close friend (educationist) were on discussion last week that, it takes only a matter of weeks away from school for students to fall disastrously behind schedule on their learning. And realistically, it takes probably only a matter of hours away from school for them to affect their parents’ productivity. So in places all over the world where remote learning will be difficult, impossible, or delayed, parents are facing a formidable challenge:- how to keep their kids from bouncing off the walls or glowing screens, while also avoiding backslide and learning loss.

Here I come up with ample no of Activities ideas for our children. Parents have a vital role to play in this to  facilitate active, engaged learning.

✓Say For preschool-age kids and younger children, it is advised to parents to find time throughout the day to read books with their kids. “Reading interactively with (not just at) children is very beneficial for language and literacy instruction,” but  “Parents should encourage their children to talk about pictures, predict what will happen next in a story, and what characters feel.”
✓ I also recommends taking walks outside (to whatever extent possible,can be just your courtyard) and talking about whatever catches children’s attention, as an exercise in language skills. “Name the object and repeat this several times. Describe the object. Ask the child what [he or she] thinks about the object, for Example You are looking at a ! You can start the conversation with, That is a beautiful , isn’t it? Do you like the ? That  is black. And look, over there, there’s another one—do you know what to call it?

✓Parents can also use their newly plentiful time with littler kids to talk about past experiences, perhaps using photos as a visual aid. “Ask, ‘See, here’s a picture of—your Nana. Do you remember what we did last time we visited to Nana’s house?

Parents should take a while and stay on a topic … getting their child to elaborate on who, what, when, where, how, and why something happened, and how the child felt about it.” The repeated act of “elaborative reminiscing,” will benefit autobiographical memory and narrative ability.

✓For older (and responsible) kids, certain kinds of independent play can substitute for structured school learning. Send your kid who is learning math basics on a mission around the house or the building to count all the windows, doors or tiles for example—and then asking them the average number of the things they counted in each room or apartment.

✓You can even challenge children to pitch a tent—or, in the absence of a tent, create a play fort—out in the yard or at the parking can teach kids innovation and resourcefulness.

✓You know what , it’s always fun for kids to write spelling words or do math problems on the windows using dry-erase markers. (“It’s almost like writing on a wall, but you’re allowed to do it.”)

Of course, the cancellation of school, and the loss of the 6 hours of child care which used to be just on  weekday, makes parenting an all-day, every-day job, on top of a parent’s daily routine of cleaning , washing etc without house help. And it becomes more challenging for those parents working from home also have the challenge of keeping their kids independently occupied so that they themselves can work.

✓For slightly older kids I recommend enlisting kids’ help in Cooking, it can be a science lesson (let’s talk about how yeast works), a math lesson (what’s a half cup plus a quarter cup?), or a reading lesson (does this label say “baking soda” or “baking powder”? Or what is the manufacturing date ,price or ingredients used to make that particular product and it provides opportunities for kids to learn about nutrition as well as foods and flavors from around the world.
Ohh! I recall when my daughter was small we used to make letters out of chocolate and then words out of the one with the wrong answer got a chance to eat another ones chocolate , ohh it was so fun…and I use to always encourage her over my mistakes.

✓Keeping kids busy during the workday in ways that won’t require supervision is easier the older they are. But “For young children”—those younger than 3 years old,“independent play is tough. They really need social interaction,” and Parents will be tempted to hand over an Phone or iPad or the like. This is understandable, but parents should also know that the younger the child, the worse this is for their language and cognitive development.” As alternatives I suggest setting kids up with Play-Doh, it can be wheat doh also, art supplies, audiobooks, or even homemade recordings of parents reading their favorite books.

Every child can become a lover of books if given habit at right time.

But for school-age kids, there is another way to encourage critical thinking is, like sitting beside to your kid and saying ‘Okay, we’re going to watch this movie, but we’re going to watch it on Thursday. Between now and then, I want you to read the book,’”. That way, “you can do a comparative analysis between the book and the movie: ‘What changes? Which one do you think is better? What things did they have to leave out because otherwise this movie would have been four hours long?’”

Just try to keep as much of that normalcy for kids as you can. Because if we encourage each other to share resources, a lot of times you’ll find richness in that, community-building. It helps the kids feel like the world isn’t falling apart right now,” Remember“It’s really easy for kids to feel depressed about how bad things are: I’m never going to go back to school. I’m never going to see my friends again. So I think we need to be cognizant of how much of that they’re absorbing—and try to replace that with some things that are positive.”


Life is a Series of Baby Steps…

Life brings us as many joyful moments and experiences as it does downfalls, and although there are days we wish there was a manual to follow, it simply wouldn’t be the same without the spontaneity. The journey of life may not become easier as we grow older, but we do seem to understand it better as our perspectives evolve. Whether you’re embarking new adventure right out of school or you want to explore different paths in your personal life, it’s never too late to change what the future looks like is what you do today…..It is rightly said

There’s always sunshine after the rain. There’s always happiness after the pain. There’s always courage after the fear. There’s always a smile after the tears. There’s always light after the dark. There’s always a flame after the spark. There’s always honesty after the lies. There’s always laughter after the cries. There’s always tomorrow after yesterday & there’s always forever after today.♥

A Smile :)

A smile can work wonders and bring happiness to a person’s life.

Touchwood, I’ve received many compliments about my smile that I Love spreading. Everyone says that my smile makes them happy also and even the helping staff, security people give me back a smile when I smile at them. That makes the start of my day, a beautiful one 🙂
An incident:
Many people give a smile when we pass along. My daughter saw this and said, is there any person who doesn’t know you, mama? I was like, smiling doesn’t take anything my dear, so I smile and eventually they too smile 🙂 🙂 and we know each other through this Universal Language 🙂
There are many incidents when people ask me how can you smile at strangers also ?
Smile, Smile… It doesn’t cost you anything !! 🙂 😉 🙂
It just gives Happiness in other people’s lives around us. It’s so because I believe a smile is an infectious thing. It naturally spreads from one person to another. Also, a smile is something that drives away the grief, stress or any kind of worries of an individual no matter how your relations are with them.

Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person.“Mother Teresa

The above quote of Mother Teresa explains how and why smile makes every person happy it comes in contact with. So, it should be our endeavor that every time we meet somebody, it should be with a smile since a smile is easy and also a valuable gift that you can give someone.
Now, talking of my personal experience, let me tell you there are several. Actually, I am a Principal at school which is up to grade 9. Here, we provide the quality basic education which is the right of every child. Let me also tell you that I have a great love for teaching. Probably, that is the reason why I enjoy being at school. There are so many children I happen to meet and interact with the whole day.
  Out of them all, the cutest and lovely are my primary kids. They enjoy every moment playing with their friends, doing some silly things out of curiosity and sheer innocence. But sometimes, they are reminded of their homes and ‘mommies’  and they end up crying. I do not like to see a kid crying.  So, whenever I see the one weeping, I go to him/her, try to distract their minds by talking of what they’d brought in their lunch boxes or offering them some toys to play, or some toffees, etc to eat. This way I am successful in making them happy. They get involved in fun activities and I just can’t explain the joy that I feel watching them smile.

I have always said that when a child enters my school with a smile in the morning and leaves with that same sweet smile in the afternoon, I have accomplished my job! I take great pride in this part of teaching and wholeheartedly believe that happiness matters; smiles go a long, long way; and acts of kindness are something we should teach AND take time to notice.

Happy students make better learners. Children who are happy, feel safe, and enjoy being at school, have a greater chance of increasing the amount of learning and understanding that can occur during the course of a school year. 

Life will keep going, accept what ever happens and move on

LIFE goes on and it gets heavy. We have to accept the defeat and move on.  The best thing I learnt from my life experience till today ,till the moment of me typing about my experience is that we always learn from our mistakes and that is the best thing learning and improving. Winning is not always that matters. Losing teaches u a lot, I have learnt a lot no. Of times I lost.

Most importantly I learnt that people come and go , not everyone accompanies you in the journey of life. There are only few who stand by till the end. So I try to keep it simple, happy most of times. Also, being emotional is a good thing that I have learnt recently. It is okay to cry  in front of your loved ones, your boss,your colleagues ,your friends don’t suppress your feelings and your basic nature be true to yourself , tears are not sign of weakness it shows your softness ,your kindness and your purity.


Express your feelings,share your experiences and  knowledge.There are so many great lessons we all learn from life. I personally made a list with some of the most important ones so far, lessons that had a great impact in my life. These lessons have helped me become the person I am today. I know there are more to come and I am ready, opened and receptive to them all.


1.People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Respect and love yourself and others will do the same.

2. Every problem you have is your responsibility, regardless of who caused it. Its your life and you have to deal with whatever comes on the way .

3. Managing one’s wants is the most powerful skill a person can learn. Whole life we want want and want, you must learn how to manage your wants.

4. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, to be at peace, to be happy and to be able to sleep at night. You don’t forgive because you are weak but because you are strong enough to realize that only by giving up on resentment will you be happy. If you hold on hate, anger, and resentment toward someone, you will end up poisoning yourself more than you poison the other person, and you will be very unhappy. 

5. A lot of times we get so focused on our big dreams and goals, that we forget to enjoy this journey called life. Always remember that life is all about this moment. Life is all about the journey and less about the destination. So take a deep cleansing breath and allow yourself to be present in everything you do. Allow yourself to enjoy each second of your life – to observe the world around you, the people present in your life and the beauty that is present within and all around you…

6. The moment you forgive somebody, chances are that you will also give them a second chance, a chance to be near you, without trying to remind them of what they did to you, treating them not as they are, or as they once were, but rather as you want them to be. By doing this, you are also allowing them to grow and to become better and better every day. Your ego might tell you to “let these people go” but what does your heart tell you? We are all humans, we all make mistakes, and we all deserve a second chance, and why not, maybe a third, fourth, a sixth and a seventh…

7. Don’t expect others to see gold where you can only see dust. If you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t believe that you are capable, a worthy human being, chances are that nobody will. You will act on that belief and people will treat you based on what you think about yourself, based on how you treat yourself and based on how you act and behave in the world.

8. “Kisi Bhi Chej Ko Shedat Se Chaho toh Pure Kaynat Ushko Milane Mein Juth Jayege”

Hence proved in my case. If you think life is unfair, and that bad thing always happen to you, chances are that life will treat you unfairly, and you will always have many reasons to complain about.  Because just how there is a law of gravity, there is also a law of attraction, and based on this law, you attract in your life that which you think about all day long, you attract that which you are, because you see, like attracts like. The law of attraction works in all that is good and also in all that is bad, and it’s only up to us whether we choose to focus our attention on the negative or on the positive. Focus your attention on the many great things you have and you are grateful for, and you will see that the more you do that, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for.


Most importantly I feel

Great things take time and we need to learn how to give time, time.Life is unpredictable, full of surprises and gifts. Some may be charming and some will be lethal. It is only you who is the writer, director and actor of your life. It depends on you if u want to be a part of the history or to make the history.”

Who is a Good Teacher ? Find Out

Children are like clay in a potters hand just as a potter gives a desired shape to clay in his hands so do the children become what their teachers make them. Childs life in a school is the most crucial phase during the foundation years for developing their nature personally by nurturing them.

We all are aware of one of the incident in Mahabharata wherein Eklavya considered Dronacharya as his Guru and as a guru he had asked Eklavya’s thumb, he without any hesitation willingly gave it. Later on when he asked did he ever repent giving his thumb, he replied yes only when he was helpless in the war as he could save him. Some people will say what a great student he was but I would say what a Great Guru Dronacharya was. In teacher student relation both the aspects are important.

Some of you may say that no more such relation exists, do such students exist. Many of us will say a big no, but as per my belief if the teacher commands respect rather than demanding it through self discipline & a friendly nature it is very much possible in today’s generation.

A child when comes in the world he knows nothing. He learns many things from the environment and the society. From mother he learns to stand, from father he learns to walk, from friends how to be social, and from a teacher the knowledge and the education which is not possible if no guidance is provided. He learns everything from the guidance of others.

To Guide means to help or to assistance by more experienced person to a less experienced person. The world is full of problems and at every step of life we have to face various problems. Sometimes we are so disgusted and stressed that we want some guidance and a moral support from someone who is experienced.

In Education field, when a child enters in a college he is not at all aware of his future but everyone has to choose a right profession. Due to lack of knowledge and guidance one may not choose a right profession and the entire career he or she may have to be the sufferer so there is a great need of the guidance for an individual for a future development and it is not possible without a proper teacher or a guru.

Teaching in its true sense, is not only to communicate or to give any instruction but influence. The teachers or Guru’s duty is not merely to communicate knowledge, but also help the children to grow, develop suitable attitude, values and their personality. The teacher with her knowledge not only expertise to teach but also inspire and guide the student to gain success at the height of excellence.

The teachers teaching in the school  influence maximum over the student as the teacher herself has to act as friend, philosopher and also a counselor giving proper guidance in all areas of activity whether it is academic, co-curricular or related to the behaviour.

The teachers’ role and the atmosphere which he or she creates in the classroom are the critical factors in the child life and the education. We all remember our good teachers more than anything else in the school. Teachers are not the source of all knowledge and order or just focussing on completion of curriculum, rather she establishes an environment and encourage student to use it Children learn best when they have creative partners with them allow the child to do mistakes as, mistakes gives opportunities to learn more and more in a better way through all possible options they make them good learners. The child should never say I can’t do it .one must appreciate the performers if he has done well. Award the child for its efforts taken for it. It always motivates the child by saying he can do it best.

That is why it is always said that a
Average teacher — teaches
Good teacher —- explains
Outstanding teacher —– always inspires throughout your life

So a special teacher always gives a turning point in the child life.
It is always said when a child comes on this earth they are empty. Then the parents come in their life adding shapes and later teachers come in and add colours to their life.

A teacher should try to find the attitude of student and try to develop students who can create their own image rather than to create student his or her own image. A good teacher is one who not only demonstrates & explains but be a role model the great teachers always go further and inspire the students The teacher should teach from the heart and not from the book, and it can only come when the teacher has done her homework properly. Teachers should also be well prepared to the answer and doubts of the students in right direction as today students are smart enough to know what teacher will reply. It is necessary for the teacher to follow the time management as she has to observe time management as one has to complete syllabus within a particular time limit.

It is therefore said, Teaching is the art/profession that teaches and creates all the other profession
Teachers are of all kinds and shades. But an idealist portrait of the teacher suggests that good teachers have some common qualities which may call upon all the other teachers to emulate these qualities of head and heart and thus leave an impact.

A good teacher has a natural talent for leading students towards learning. He/she is able to dream up fascinating learning activities for his students to engage in. He/she looks for the best in students and communicates clearly that each one has untold potential. The most expressive of all the types, a teacher is remarkably good with language, especially when communicating in speech, face to face. He likes things organised and is especially when trustworthy in honouring commitments. He is extraordinary tolerant of others and is easy to get along with. A typically ideal teacher is highly sensitive and intuitive. His insight into himself and others is unparalleled. He also identifies with others quite easily and slips almost unconsciously into other people skin. He feels connected with those around and thus shows interest in the joys and problems of their colleagues, students and loved ones.

A perfect teacher will always challenge their students to go the extra mile. The reason being is the students can’t stay on the same level all the time. They have to gradually move up to advance levels. Students these days have so much problems going on with their personal life, and there school work. It’s very important for teachers to be very patient towards their students, and give them time to think and relax. The teachers is the one who teaches students about making the right decisions in life. Teachers needs to start enhancing students creativity.


Can An Educationist Be Part Of Pageantry ?

You probably don’t think there are any reasons to enter a beauty pageant, for an educationist but I’m here to tell you there are a ton of reasons why you should! A lot of people think that it’s all about the big hair, beauty, walking around on stage, and being plastic! And all about glamour I’m here to tell you that what you watch on TV or from other sources aren’t true! These are the real reasons to enter a beauty pageant…
I would be lying if I say pageantry didn’t do anything for you! Because pageantry literally changed who I am, my vision, and everything I once was. It taught me so much about myself, and I learned so much about other key things in life from poise, grace, proper communication, building self-confidence, networking, and much more!
I would never take back any of the competitions I’ve ever competed in. I’m grateful for each and every experience I’ve encountered. Although, I may have not won every single one, I walked away with much more than a crown and title. These alone are my reasons to enter in a pageant.
First things first, and I must be completely honest here, I’m not the biggest fan of traditional “beauty pageants”.
 I’ve never been a ‘beauty pageant’ kind of girl; when I learned that Mrs India was so much more than a beauty pageant, I did a little bit of digging. I looked at their values, the past winners, and I found such a synergy between the Mrs India vision and my own. Mrs India gives average women a platform to do amazing things. What’s interesting is that the ‘average’ Indian  women are Superwomen in their own right. She is a wife, a mother, a home-maker, a career women, a friend, a mentor, and many times the glue that holds her family together.
As an educationist , a mother, a wife, a voice over artist, registered psychometrist, author and blogger, I related to this every woman. I too wear many hats and juggle many tasks… but I consider myself just one of the “average” women. However WE are anything but average. We are brave, ambitious, powerful women who many times don’t give ourselves the credit, nor allow ourselves to “lean in”. Look at business and politics; the number of women in leadership roles are grossly disproportionate in comparison to our male counterparts.
My wish is that I can motivate and inspire Indian woman – no matter their background, education or scars – to be unapologetic in recognising ourselves as massive forces in society. To come forward and take on those leadership roles. To teach our daughters to be fearless, and teach our sons to respect our women.

Different Shades Of Life Makes Life More Beautiful

Look around a observe the many colors, shades and hues of God’s creation.
Planet Earth is full of natural wonders.

Nature gives us so much beauty, joy and colors.
People come in so many different packages and personalities.

Life is anything but boring.
Make sure that you allow yourself to enjoy all of life’s colors and distinctions.

It is easy to judge others, especially if they are different than you.
It is easy to judge yourself, too.
See if you can suspend your judgment and simply observe….take in all in.
Allow yourself to just experience the moment.

It is the different colors and people that make life so interesting and unpredictable.
Variety adds spice to life.

Sometimes we meet people in personal and professional life and it starts out very promising.

One should discover the lesson in it for oneself and not judge yourself or the other person. You always have free choice of what you want to do or who you want to be with. You are never at the effect of anyone else unless you choose to give up your power and freedom of choice.

Keep and open heart and mind and stay positive.
Even a “bad” experience teach you something important with a silver lining.

So drop the loss and take the gain!
Take the best and leave the rest!


Journey Of A Woman In A Beauty Pageant

Most little girls dream of gliding down a runway in a flowing gown and a glittering crown. Most grown-up girls know they’re not beauty queens and mutter under their breath about “those airheads competing on stage.”

I’m one of those “airheads” who has stood under the floodlights with a pasted-on smile. And though I never sauntered away with a crown perched on my head, the experience was invaluable

The first thing that comes to mind when we hear the word “beauty pageant?” we think about tons of glitz and glams. As for me, I think about an experience that helped me step out of my comfort zone and grow into a more confident individual.

Goal setting, “can do” attitude, and performance under pressure all while wearing heels.

Being part of mrs india earth was a challenging task for me…
They are judged on a behind-the-scene interview before the start of the pageant, a speech given on any topic they choose, a talent or demonstration, a walk across stage in their gown, and their answer to a random question. I was given the opportunity to participate in this pageant, and it was one of the most fun and memorable experiences I have to date.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am not exactly the most outgoing person around. I like to keep to myself, and I don’t usually do things that are outside the comfort zone. However, when presented with the chance to compete in the Mrs India Earth 2017 , “What is the worst thing that could happen?” and I decided to sign up. In the beginning, I was really nervous about it for several reasons. First, I was worried the other girls would think I wasn’t good enough to be part of the pageant. Second, I absolutely wear Western clothes,dance etc (I was terrified). Third, I have not always been the most comfortable person in front of big crowds, and I worry about just being myself sometimes. But, I pushed past all the nervousness and ended up having the best time.

I realized that the directors who run the pageant don’t judge anyone, and they welcome everyone into their little Pageant family. I got to know girls who I otherwise might not have talked to at school and always had a good time with them at all our meetings and events. We all supported each other and tried helping each other out whenever we could, so it was often easy to forget that I’d later be competing against all of them. I learned to just laugh at myself when I dance and embrace the awkwardness I felt. Also, we weren’t even judged on that part, so I just had to have a good time with it. I looked past the fear of the crowd, mainly because it’s so bright on stage you can’t even see anyone in their seats. I was able to gain a huge piece of confidence in myself to just let people see who I really am and be me. Overall, I was able to learn a lot and gain valuable life lessons and skills from participating in this pageant. I just opened up and went for it. I had a lot of fun walking up on ramp no matter how bad it might have looked, I gave a speech completely from memory on a topic I feel very strongly about, I played “Amazing Grace” on the clarinet which was the first time I had ever done a solo in front of a large crowd, and I smiled my hardest as I walked across the stage wearing a beautiful dress. Throughout the pageant, all of us girls cheered each other on, wished each other luck, and encouraged one another backstage the whole time. It was so enjoyable to be alongside all those girls, and I will always be thankful for the experience they helped me have as I participated in the pageant.

It truly isn’t all about the competition and winning the crown, it’s about being yourself, making the most of the experience, and creating friendships and memories that you’ll remember forever. No matter how it all ends up, you should be so proud of yourself for putting everything you had out on the stage and giving it all you have to represent yourself and your hometown. Don’t let nervousness or fright of stepping out of your comfort zone deter you, because you might miss out on something extremely special, or totally surprise yourself like I did.

So, to any girls who have participated or will participate in mrs India earth Pageant, I hope it means as much to you as it did to me, and I hope you would had/have just as much fun as I did and that you fully soak it in and love the atmosphere of it.

Marriage Is Not The End To Your Career

I have always believed and I still believe that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.

Hermen Hesse (Siddhartha)

It is a general assumption that it is difficult to continue education and pursue a career after an early marriage especially for girls.  Many Girls take marriage as an end to their aspirations and immerse themselves in their family and worldly duties thinking that this is what they were destined to do.  This is more evident in small cities where culture and traditions are considered to be a lag on their (girls) self development. 

I would argue that you could be successful academically and careerwise despite backward traditions, culture and other impediments.  I am a live example of achieving success in all areas after marriage despite conservative family background, rigid culture and customs.   This situation works vice-versa also.  Many men also feel that they could do nothing better or continue studies after marriage.     A peaceful marriage and a zeal to never give up on each other is what is required.

An awareness is required to be spread about not losing hope and continuing with education after marriage.  Generally there is a fear that in-laws would not support their education and career, whereas this could be changed with positive persuasion and self motivation. 

The point to be made is that an early marriage is not the end rather with each other’s support it could be a beginning of a successful life in all aspects of life for both the partners.  Moreover a girl could achieve all this while respecting her culture and traditions and I consider myself as an example to the above.