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Gender Equality In India, Do You Feel So?


The Article 15 of the Indian Constitution says, “No citizen shall be discriminated on the grounds of religion, caste, sex, etc.” The Indian constitution ensures equal treatment to all its citizens regardless of their diversities; still India is suffering from the issue of Gender Inequality

The section of society that suffers the most is the females. This is mainly because of the cultural and traditional barriers; the fact that girls are trained on how an ideal woman should be. In many parts of the country, the role of women is just to do the household chores and look after the family. This is reflected in the reports of the survey which stated that women’s workforce is just 28.5% in the urban employment sector. Though literacy rate in Kerala is the highest, still women’s employment rate is less. Not only in terms of employment but in terms of living, the condition of women is bad. For instance, marital rape has been an issue in India for decades. Some people want it to get criminalized while others believe that marital rape cannot be proved. This issue like every other has two sides; in some cases, women may falsely accuse men of marital rape and in the other, men may take advantage of their female counterparts. The Former CJI, Dipak Misra in April 2019, said that “I don’t think that marital rape should be regarded as an offense in India, because it will create absolute anarchy in families and our country is sustaining itself because of the family platform which upholds family values.” 

Some measures have been taken by the government to ensure women get equal rights. One such right given to them is an equal share of the property of the father between daughters and sons. Hence, women too can now demand the property of their fathers even after marriage.  Not only women but men too are sometimes harassed and violated. For instance, The MeToo movement that got famous on various social media handles as a tool for women to raise voice against harassment was misused by many women. Men were falsely accused of crimes they didn’t do, which in turn led to their downfall in every division of their lives. Cases of harassment against men are also coming in the light now. The fact that men too can be raped is ignored even by the constitution of India. Therefore, equality lacks here too.

The LGBTQ+ Community in India faces discrimination almost every day and in all fields & ways possible. Even after the removal of section 377, the citizens of India are not accepting this community. Workplace discrimination and exploitation are very high. Firstly, LGBTQ+ community people don’t get a job easily, when they do, they are discriminated against and exploited to such an extent that they are forced to leave their jobs or sometimes, commit suicide. A case in Bengaluru where a homosexual got a blue-collar job in a five-star hotel had to leave his job only after 10 months of being employed there due to exploitation and humiliation by his colleagues. It is evident from this case that the biggest hurdle in the path of equal rights of the LGBTQ+ community in India is the lack of social acceptance. Even the Transgender Bill passed by the Government of India, instead of providing equal rights to the community has posed a bigger factor of exploitation by asking for a certificate of being a Transgender. There is a long way to go in achieving equality in the case of sexual minorities.

 In essence, despite the Government’s initiatives and efforts of various NGOs, India still doesn’t see each gender as equal. Social acceptance is the biggest barrier that will only be removed when people will start understanding and accepting the fact that each and every human should be treated equally. 

Being a housewife is a thankless job in India

 

Its 21st century and unpaid work done by Indian women as housewives is 3.1 percent of the country’s GDP, but still, it is the thankless job, not even considered a job. Because, ‘oh you are a woman and making your home and raising the children is your duty’, gender roles, socially construed but at the same time are viewed as some natural law.

A recent report published by Oxfam notes that unpaid work done by women across the globe amounts to USD 10 trillion a year. And yet, most women, men and the governments across the world do not consider it as ‘work’. And mind you this is not dawned to us as a divine law but traces its roots to sexism or in the simpler words gender discrimination.

Women on an average spend, 312 minutes per day in urban areas and 291 minutes per day in rural areas on such unpaid care work, in comparison, men spend only 29 minutes in urban and 32 minutes in rural areas.

Swarna Rajagpalan, political scientist and the founder and director for the Prajnya Trust- a non-profit organisation based in Chennai says,” The idea is that if you are born with XX chromosome, you are already good at household work”.

A report published on Thursday by the International Labour Organisation (ILO) noted that the most dynamic economies in the Asia-Pacific region, India and China, have seen women’s employment rates fall more than that of men. The primary reason being that women play the role of caregiver.

Back in 2012, a bill by the women and child development ministry proposed that it will be mandatory for men to share their income with their wives if she does not work outside the home. However, it just didn’t implemented as a law.However, reducing the work burden on women should be the government’s first objective in order to recognise their work and include it in the GDP.

Can An Educationist Be Part Of Pageantry ?

You probably don’t think there are any reasons to enter a beauty pageant, for an educationist but I’m here to tell you there are a ton of reasons why you should! A lot of people think that it’s all about the big hair, beauty, walking around on stage, and being plastic! And all about glamour I’m here to tell you that what you watch on TV or from other sources aren’t true! These are the real reasons to enter a beauty pageant…
I would be lying if I say pageantry didn’t do anything for you! Because pageantry literally changed who I am, my vision, and everything I once was. It taught me so much about myself, and I learned so much about other key things in life from poise, grace, proper communication, building self-confidence, networking, and much more!
I would never take back any of the competitions I’ve ever competed in. I’m grateful for each and every experience I’ve encountered. Although, I may have not won every single one, I walked away with much more than a crown and title. These alone are my reasons to enter in a pageant.
First things first, and I must be completely honest here, I’m not the biggest fan of traditional “beauty pageants”.
 I’ve never been a ‘beauty pageant’ kind of girl; when I learned that Mrs India was so much more than a beauty pageant, I did a little bit of digging. I looked at their values, the past winners, and I found such a synergy between the Mrs India vision and my own. Mrs India gives average women a platform to do amazing things. What’s interesting is that the ‘average’ Indian  women are Superwomen in their own right. She is a wife, a mother, a home-maker, a career women, a friend, a mentor, and many times the glue that holds her family together.
As an educationist , a mother, a wife, a voice over artist, registered psychometrist, author and blogger, I related to this every woman. I too wear many hats and juggle many tasks… but I consider myself just one of the “average” women. However WE are anything but average. We are brave, ambitious, powerful women who many times don’t give ourselves the credit, nor allow ourselves to “lean in”. Look at business and politics; the number of women in leadership roles are grossly disproportionate in comparison to our male counterparts.
My wish is that I can motivate and inspire Indian woman – no matter their background, education or scars – to be unapologetic in recognising ourselves as massive forces in society. To come forward and take on those leadership roles. To teach our daughters to be fearless, and teach our sons to respect our women.

“Dowry helps ugly girls get married”, Says College Notes ! Really ?

Notes of St. Joseph College, Bengaluru provided the horrifying contents in notes stating “dowry helps ugly girls to get married”  as advantage of dowry who otherwise would have gone without a partner. It gives an opportunity to ugly girls by offering heavy amount of dowry.

Undergraduate students were given photocopies from a book that listed these benefits of dowry.

Despite teaching the disadvantages of dowry, institutions in India are now providing its benefits. Accordingly we are no longer left with the need of educating ugly girls. Poor families who can’t afford dowry for their girls and even don’t have beautiful daughters are now left with no choice to marry them. Marriages based on dowry concept have no place for love and understanding between the couples. Those marriages takes place only for one or the other greed and not with any attachment to the girls.

 

Dowry has been illegal in India since 1961 still the education system in India proves such practices a good one. They’ve also given some more advantages being it a useful and effective method of attracting good, handsome and sometimes unwilling boys for marriage. Despite knowing the fact that one woman is murdered for dowry  in every 20 minutes, we have now got the study material giving its advantages. It’s such a blot on the Indian culture.

 

 

Education should be on the first most importance in one’s life. Lauryn Hill, an American singer, songwriter, rapper, and actress is a true example who puts self dependency much above than ugliness and dowry.   If this continues in India, truly we have got a long way to go. Sometimes it becomes difficult to understand whether we Indians are moving forward with the growing world or are lacking behind because of these atrocities.

 

“You’re married? You do not look like it” , In India Women Have To Look Different Once They Are Married

Some people believe that dressing modestly is a part of respecting the boundaries of marriage. “You’re married? You do not look like it,” is a phrase women hear even after a decade of being married. Especially in India, women have to look different once they are married. Once you tie the knot, your wardrobe has to announce your marital status.

 

A woman has to be a sari-clad, wearing sindoor and mangal sutra, but men can roam around the house in shorts and tees all their lives. There is no obligation for men to ‘look married’ and ‘sanskari’. Men can go on living their lives, nothing much changes once they are married but women become ‘ghar ki izzat’ (honour of the family) the moment she steps inside a new home. A woman is treated as a walking, talking platform meant to display her husband’s wealth.

 

“Oh, she has not popped out a baby in five years. There must be something wrong with her.”

“She comes from a family where values were not impacted.”

“She is a disgrace to our family- look at those skinny jeans, who wears those after marriage!”

Sadly, women themselves are carrying forward the tradition of taming other women like cows and buffaloes.

 

A woman is treated as a walking, talking platform meant to display her husband’s wealth. The imaginary ‘izzat’ of the house is let down and the family has to face severe embarrassment if a married woman is spotted wearing anything western. The wardrobe of a woman can have a drastic impact on dignity and grace of the entire clan.

Imagine the world where men have to wear traditional attires, talk softly, cook delicacies, and make babies.

 

Do you think men would be able to carry on with the weight of the world on their shoulders?

In ancient India, Hindu men and women adorned themselves with exotic jewelry around their bodies. Hindu scriptures talk in detail about how men relished accessorising themselves. Over a period, men stopped being decorative pieces but women were forced to follow the ancient traditions to keep it alive. It becomes a ‘talk of the town’ if married women decide to wear something un-traditional, they say things like – your husband’s age multiplies if you wear sindoor on your forehead.

Indian women nowadays are financially independent working as CEOs of reputed organisations but nobody can escape the pressure of becoming a sanskari bahu. You could be a miser, destroying families over trivial issues but not wearing body-covering clothes is illegal.

We are teaching our daughters to be independent so that their in-laws can tame them.

A woman could be earning better than her husband could but she is graded for culinary skills, alone.

 

 

This Dailymail Post About Selena Gomez Shows Bad Ethics Of Journalism Objectifying Woman

Selena Gomez has never been one to shy away from embracing her body and wears whatever she likes to wear. Recently,She was spotted wearing a very stylish black leather jacket while attending the Hillsong Church event held at the Hammerstein Ballroom.
As always she was looking beautiful well dressed but one news post in one of most popular news portal dailymail represented this news with lots of nuisance.
The post states Selena Gomez flashes cleavage as she goes hell for leather in biker jacket at church service
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First we would like to ask them cleavage ? really ? where did the reporter finds cleavage in her outfits ? through his cheap eyes ?
Its well covered outfit but even if it had a deep neck its not a right way to write article for cheap publicity and getting number of clicks by such title.

Such journalist should be slammed for bad ethics of journalism objectifying women just to gain the attention.

Home Living: Four Ways to Create Good Vibes in Your Home

 

“You attract the energy that you give off. Spread good vibes. Think positively. Enjoy life.”-Unknown Author

To most individuals, the home is not only a place of shelter or where you return to from a long day of work—no, to most people, the home is also a sanctuary. Without a doubt, it is where a major fraction of our time in, so it is only natural for us to create an environment that is not only comfortable but inviting and relaxing as well. Whether you are a believer or not, one of the unique yet effective ways to elevate a home’s general ambiance is to improve its energy. After all, everything is considered energy. The sentiment may sound abstract, but in a practical sense, it is a way of dealing with challenges in life by “changing your energy or channeling elsewhere.
Similarly, in order to create an atmosphere of good vibes and cultivate an environment of excellent ambiance, you should change the energy of your surroundings—particularly in your home. Redirecting a home’s Chi, the moniker designated to life force, is paramount to creating a platform for love, money, creativity, peace or health that you desire. So, if you wish to enhance the energy and direct Chi into your existing home—whether that may be in a BGC condo or elsewhere, here are some of the ways you can do just that:

1.) Clear the air

Invite natural breeze into your home by opening your windows and having the air circulation flow. If this is impossible to do—or if you live in a rather polluted area, you can alternatively use an air purifier or just simply have a glowing Himalayan salt lamp installed somewhere in your home. This would effectively permeate the air around you with happiness. In order to create a positive space, salt lamps would release negative ions into the air which air becomes infused in after a rainstorm.

2.) Deep clean

You cannot invite Chi and good energy into your home if your home itself is unwelcoming to it. One of the ways it can become rather uninviting to positive energy is when it looks neglected and is not thoroughly cleaned. Although clutter and mess are natural consequences of feeling stuck, that does not mean you should just leave them alone either. After all, a general semblance of disarray would mean stagnation and where stagnation is, energy flow gets blocked. To restore a home’s balance and optimal flow, it is imperative that you do some cleaning.

3.) Eliminate bad memories

It is inevitable that life’s tribulations and trials will leave you with bad memories. However, you should not hold on to them. Anything that is associated with hard, painful and trying times should be banished. To do this, any remnants such as photos, outfits, furniture, gifts from parts of your life that you do not want to remember and dwell on should be thrown or given away. If it is no longer serving you well or is causing you to recall bad events in your life, get rid of it.

4.) Add color

Enliven your living space by adding splashes of color to it. Every color in whatever intensity brings a different kind of energy to the space. If you want to foster growth and flexibility, add touches of green into your home. To welcome prosperity, choose red while orange brings warmth and cheer. Considering that there are a lot of colors to choose from, it can be a tad bit overwhelming to make up your mind. To address this, start with the colors that you feel partial to and make sure they are well displayed all over your house in the form of furniture or decor.

 

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Those who think it’s the dress that decides a woman character; this one is for you.

“ I am a girl that loves to walk the street with the sense of freedom. I love playing around with my friends without hesitating of laughing louder or being heard. I too have desires to wear my favorite dress, no matter it shows my knees or my back. Then why do you people with the ill mentality and abnormal development of brain think that I have to take your permission to rock on that dress that I think showcases my body perfectly.”

This isn’t just a statement, but the voice of hundreds & thousands of independent women of India that undergo a cruel scrutiny of the male chauvinist society for every single thing. She can’t walk on her own, dress as she likes, speak her opinion and do what she desires.

Recently there have been many cases of gang rapes, murder after the rape, acid attacks, and female genocide. While the latter are the cases of mentally ill societal perseverance, Rapes have been acclaimed to be the fault of the girl, Why?? Because, she was not dressed appropriately.

To all the haters, a girl wearing a Burka on the road is as vulnerable as a girl wearing a short skirt because she has the same beauty and modesty that some sick people consider a playing object.

We have the right to wear anything we desire, no matter it is too short to show our legs or too deep to offer you a glimpse of the cleavage. Did we ever bother when you walked the street wearing those ill fitted sandos and a boxer short? No, we didn’t, because we are not sick like most of the men are today.

Okay, you saw my BRA STRAP. So, What?? It is a garment that I wear for my comfort. You can see it because I am wearing it. Even if I am not, how does it bother you? Go, do something meaningful.

It’s not just the men, but we; women have also become a critic for ‘Feminism’. It is high time, we step forward to tell the world that we are humans and have a body just like yours. If you do not have the ability to keep your ill thoughts in control, DO NOT BLAME US!!!

Girl On Twitter Explains Rape In 11 Tweets And Her Posts Got Viral With Appreciation

It may be the year 2017, but some people still have a hard time understanding rape, and constantly look for ways to blame the victim. A North London girl took to Twitter to say it a little louder for the people in the back, and her visceral explanation of the heinous act struck a chord.

The user, who goes by the screen name @_clvrarose on Twitter and the pen name The Rose on her personal blog, posted her victorious thread on March 29th. With undeniable clarity, she broke down a side of rape that is too often ignored, and one that is disturbingly used as a defense for rapists in some cases. The entire thread earned over 6.9 thousand retweets and over 7 thousand likes, and created a wave of mutual understanding and support.

 

A Twitter user from North London explained rape in a way that some people might not have even considered

She went viral, and her powerful post thread received a standing ovation from the Twittersphere

Sexual assault is never the victim’s fault.

 

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