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“You’re not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor , setting the world on fire with your truth and you never know who needs your light, your warmth, and raging courage”
The above lines, rightly hold true for a braveheart lady from Nepal who was raped at a young age of 15 and being a single mother, she raised her daughter despite being sold for prostitution. This story , as narrated by the courageous lady herself adds tragic layers at each point, and makes for a heart-rending ordeal. Definitely, she can be changed by what happened to her, but she refused to be reduce by it.
Sharing her distressing story , the courageous lady told that she grew up in the temple where she was informed by the priests about her parents death, after she was born. She don’t even remember seeing them. Unfortunately, a uniformed man raped her and she became a young mother around the age of 15, when she was in Nepal. She remembered playing in the temple with no idea of what is the world and eventually, the life changed completely for her. When the unidentified man & baby’s father discovered that she was with his child, he ran away. Her life changed completely after that, and from being a carefree teenager, she began begging in the temple for herself and her daughter and lived on the crumbs and clothes people gave them. She continued living in the temple and cooking for them in exchange for shelter.
Then one day,when she was cooking on the chulha, she was approached by a man ,who used to regularly come to the temple and told her to accompany her so that he can take her to his sister’s place in India, where she will have no tension for money anymore. As a scared and desperate girl of 16 with a baby, she eagerly nodded her head and followed him blindly to get her daughter out of the situation, they were in.
However , after she reached Pune, she realized that she wasn’t going to work as a domestic help. The ‘sister’ that person had mentioned was a brothel keeper whom she was sold for Rs. 1 lakh. She cried so much that she used to turn red. Like other normal girl, she also refused to work in that trade for the first 5 months when she was in Pune , she used to be beaten with sticks and slapped until someone bought her. He used to force her to go with a man who repelled her , dragged her and forced himself on her.
After few months, this agent sold her to a Seth in Mumbai for Rs. 60 thousand as she was too difficult for him to manage. The Seth was a nice person. Once , she reached Mumbai, life turned different for her and she started willingly going for the kind of work which she refused earlier as, it was the only way to feed her daughter. She used to leave her with a lady nearby whom she paid Rs. 4000 every month. By that time, she was already infected with TB and HIV and she was a lost and wasted life, when she was young itself. After spending nine years in the brothels of Mumbai, numerous fights with the brothel keeper, alcohol addiction, living in deplorable conditions and entertaining drunk men; she finally chose to leave the area when hope was offered to her by Purnata.
She dream of living with her daughter together someday, who is now in a hostel. Hopefully, she will get a good employment after finishing her training. Her life is about her now — She don’t know how long she will live, but like every other mother, she want to make sure her daughter is educated and can support herself. Her life has been miserable, but she drew strength and motivation from wanting to raise her daughter well. The strength she had these past few years have been solely because she is a a mother…else ,she must have given up long back. But she won’t give up as she was not ready to let these men, who came night after night to break her. She is a true fighter and she won’t let evil men win.”.Rightly ,
She was powerful, not because she wasn’t scared but because she went on so strongly despite the fear”
But, one thing I will not understand ,” Why it is more shameful to be raped than to be a rapist??”
So, overlooking sexual assault is not okay — trying to make it disappear and knowing about it while not doing anything about it isn’t going to change anything. We are humans and all deserve to be treated with respect. We need to listen to survivors when they gather the unspeakable amount of courage it takes to speak up and say “me too”. We need to fight for the people who can’t fight for themselves. Something has to be done to make a valuable and precious change..
“Rape is not a dirty secret, it is a violent crime, Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others”